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You know what makes life zesty? Being a part of the Next Big Idea Club! If you aren't a part of this club, well, dare I say you're missing out on some fabulous living? Living with a whole lot of learning going on?!I'm giddy and grateful in equal measure for You Only Die Once (yes! You're right! That's my just-released book!) to be selected as one of their "Must-Reads." They have mindblowingly fabulous titles in their club and for YODO to share the virtual shelf space with them... it's an honor. I'm pretty sure it's the only book in their highly curated list that has the Grim Reaper waterskiing on the cover. I'll double check that.Okay, enough preambling over here. Check out my little Book Bite (in the link below) and get cracking on the Next Big Idea Club. Life's too short to not stuff it with big, juicy ideas.#fourthousandmondays #carpediem #nextbigideaclub

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Check out my excerpt in CNBC Make It: Work about the most common regrets that haunt us... and more importantly, how to prevent them (because preventing them is totally possible!). Life. It's too short to end up with a bunch of "if only," right?#fourthousandmondays #cnbc

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What’s a human trying hard to hang on in this world to do? We all need coping mechanisms, and habits are among the most benign in a world where there are a lot of strong drugs out there that’ll help “take the edge off.” But habits grow weary on us.... They lead to the mind-numbing boredom you deep down know to be suspicious of.The answer is to mitigate the life-squelching effects of routines with variety and novelty.We must shake up the snow globes of our lives.Novelty is the saving grace of a dullingly narrow life.It responds to the basicpsychological needwe have to experience “newness” and stray from the well-worn paths of our routines.Researchhighlights the connection between the amount of new experiences and novelty in our lives and our positive emotional state; the greater the variety in our day-to-day goings-on, the greater the happiness. Cha-ching!Even if we self-identify as homeostasis lovers who prefer predictable structure, as humans we’re driven from the depths of our genetic coding to go after new experiences, challenge ourselves in fresh ways, and explore new ideas, people, and places.Whether we areneophilic(wanting shiny new everythings) orneophobic(very much disinterested in trying that newfangled cheese because “cheddar is just fine”), novelty is essential if we want to live the good life. Some of us need and want newness more than others, butresearchis clear that we all need it; the introduction of novelty in our daily lives adds to our motivation and well-being, regardless of the importance we attach to it.Your habits might be hanging on for dear life, and in a way we should respect them for their death grip, yes? But f them. They are leeching your aliveness, and you haven’t made it this far into the article just to go through the motions.Variety, as they say, is the spice of life. So check out the blog post for 26 highly applicable ideas, from real live people who have attended my workshops, on ways to refresh your days and weeks. Novelty seeking acts like a booster shot to motivation; the exploration of unfamiliar things jacks up our well-being and helps us function at our best.Variety really is the spice of life ... and we want the flavorful life, not the bland one, right? Let's get spicy!https://lnkd.in/ghFxyHnj#carpediem #fourthousandmondays

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Speaking with Phil Gerbyshak is like a positive intervention.Even when talking about death... because he knows how to make everything funny, uplifting, and meaningful.Check out our podcast chat! He's one of the good ones 😌.#fourthousandmondays #theburnoutspeaker

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What would you rather do?A) Ask for helpB) Smother yourself in chum and then splash around in shark-infested watersIf you picked A, you’re a liar, but that’s okay because I’m here to help (EVEN THOUGH YOU DIDN’T ASK FOR IT).Psychologists confirm that we’re notoriously and repeatedly out to lunch when it comes to our fear of asking for help: “people underestimate by as much as 50% the likelihood that others would agree to a direct request for help.” We think we're annoying people but we're actually hijacking their potential happiness.We're the help-hoarding worst.Research is ridiculously clear that “selfish altruism” pays: we’re happier when we’re helping other people out. Study participants who donated time or money were 42 percent likelier to be happy than the selfish a$$holes who didn’t give a care or a dime.Asking for a favor or help gives people a chance to contribute, be generous, and feel like they matter in your life.Why rob someone of the chance to feel like a billion bucks by helping you? Or even five bucks?I was deeply uncomfortable with the idea of asking a select group of friends to review my book,You Only Die Once, on Amazon and Goodreads.My inner talk track sounded something (wallowy) like:“I don’t want to bother her.”“I don’t want to look like a user.”“He’ll be annoyed by the request because he’s so busy and he knows I know he’s busy.”“Where can I get a bucket of chum?”“I wish you’d asked me; I’d have loved to have shared it on Instagram,” was what one acquaintance said to me after I caught up with her last month and told her about my preorder book push. At first I just felt like an idiot for missing the boat—what with her having an admirable follower count and all—but then I felt something worse. I felt like a jerk. I could tell by her tone that I’d distanced us, that I had disappointed her for not including her in my “inner circle” of people I actually did muster up the courage to ask to help promote the book. It never occurred to me that I might mildly offend someone fornotasking for help.Why deny the love and care that someone gets to express by helping you after you’ve asked?How do you feel when someone you care about in some way asks you for help?You usually delight in the chance to assist someone, right? To lend your expertise … to make their life easier in some way … to strengthen your relationship … to bring a side dish to dinner.Where might you benefit from asking for help today?Who can you ask for help with that project/ brainstorm/ task?It might not feel easy, but are you willing to adopt an “I’m the kind of person who asks for help” identity? To take on an “asking for help is a trust-building endeavor” mindset?Now go do someone a favor byasking them for a favor.Help them help you. Help them feel great today.#carpediem #fourthousandmondays

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Excited to join Jennifer McConnell at Living Legacy for a conversation about building and living your legacy. Join in if you can ... hope to see you there!

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What a great time talking to the incredible Ilene Schaffer, MA, PCC on her What's Possible Podcast... we spoke about how to stuff more life into life, and how to make sure regrets don't haunt us at the end (or on the way to the end). Such a great chat with a total pro. Check it out!

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Okay, admit it: you're as enthralled with the "Desuckify Work" name as I am, and you feel compelled to listen to TJ Bennett, ACC 🐱's podcast (yes! The one with me on "remembering we all must die").It's not morbid; it's fun, there are cat images, and thought-provoking questions. TJ's amazing! Check it out (along with my custom sound effect that signifies life's getting lived around here).#puddingfactory #fourthousandmondays

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I'm excited about an excerpt of my book (You Only Die Once: How to Make It to the End with No Regrets) being featured by the The British Psychological Society!Check it out here... and okay, fine, here's a teaser if you need one:Regrets can motivate us to change our behaviour and improve our lives, after we simmer in the uncomfortable awareness of 'what could have been' if we'd only made a way better decision. Oh, the benefit of 20/20 hindsight. Regret actually wins the Best of the Worst award; studies show we value regret more than any of the negative emotions out there, because we accept its functional value to help shepherd our decisions. Let's dive into seven ways regrets (*sigh*) make play an important role in an astonishing life...#britishpsychologicalsociety #fourthousandmondays #carpediem

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