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joshgotro Deviled Egg The Land of REAL CHILIRegistered User regular
August 1
thatassemblyguy wrote: »
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didn't we talk about how you owe me like 3% of all your earnings
did i say bonus? i meant recognition. just a piece of plastic...
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Incenjucar VChatter Seattle, WARegistered User regular
August 1
There are kinds of pain a human can experience where they will desperately long for death even when they know it is strictly temporary. Drugs can only do so much.
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thatassemblyguy Janitor of Technical Debt .Registered User regular
August 1 edited August 1
Donkey Kong wrote: »
thatassemblyguy wrote: »
joshgotro wrote: »
didn't we talk about how you owe me like 3% of all your earnings
did i say bonus? i meant recognition. just a piece of plastic...
not even a pizza party
that'll be next year for this year's IP awards. we get a lunch with the lawyer at a middling restaurant (think overpriced TGIF)
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DoctorArch Curmudgeon Registered User regular
August 1
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I can't imagine getting into an honest to god fight with my husband over an unlikely hypothetical that neither of us are close to. It's ridiculous and shows gross emotional immaturity.
I can't remember if you have kids DK. If you don't, having kids is one of those things where your life is lived with constant hypotheticals and worries about their well being crossed with asking yourself every day "am I doing the right thing" or "was I a good parent today."
A lot of times just to survive you put stuff on the table until later, but sometimes the hypothetical is right there and you have to ask it so you know what page you both are on. Other times it's just good practice to game out the hypothetical (like who gets the kids if we both die in a car accident).
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emnmnme Registered User regular
August 1
Donkey Kong wrote: »
I can't imagine getting into an honest to god fight with my husband over an unlikely hypothetical that neither of us are close to. It's ridiculous and shows gross emotional immaturity.
"Would you still love me if I were a worm" is supposed to be a joke.
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skippydumptruck begin again Registered User regular
August 1
bowen wrote: »
I just lie and say "that's a decision I'd have to think about in the moment, I don't really know what I'd decide if it were my kid and not this what-if".
I respond similarly to my kids all the time, and it's probably unsatisfying to them!
but I'm trying to be truthful and stick to what I say, AND I make decisions for myself and them all day! I don't have mental energy to devote to how we'll handle who owns the ps4 when you move out or whatever
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Tumin Registered User regular
August 1
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Would you still love me if I pushed a fat man in front of this trolley to save the five kids I tied to the tracks
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bowen How you doin'? Registered User regular
August 1
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Donkey Kong wrote: »
I can't imagine getting into an honest to god fight with my husband over an unlikely hypothetical that neither of us are close to. It's ridiculous and shows gross emotional immaturity.
It's why I honestly feel it's okay to "lie" in these situations. It only comes up because emotions are already high and someone who is not as involved emotionally will say the wrong answer. When you are personally in that situation, even if you are like DrArch today, you might find the emotional charge of the situation wants you to act differently.
It's a higher stakes version of "does this dress make me look fat?"
not a doctor, not a lawyer, examples I use may not be fully researched so don't take out of context plz, don't @ me
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Tumin Registered User regular
August 1
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Oh so youd push five kids into the tracks to save one guy
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August 1
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It's also extremely hard to be supportive of my s/o when she makes... not so great emotionally charged decisions with her kid. But I realize I'm not dad so I don't really get a say.
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knitdan In ur base Killin ur guysRegistered User regular
August 1
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bowen wrote: »
having seen 50 and 60 year old men and women who can't process loss and keep their 98 year old mother on dialysis who is literally begging to die to all the nurses really changes you from "do anything to keep them alive for a day longer!" to "let these people have some f*cking dignity, god damn".
This is ironically far more common in areas that are very religious
I got my training at a hospital outside of Shreveport and I can’t tell you how many codes I worked on vegetative nonagenarians from nursing homes because their families demanded it
I think back to the Terry Schiavo case, where her brain was pudding but her family (who didn’t have control over her medical decisions) wanted to keep pretending that she was still somewhere in there and praying for a miracle.
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joshgotro Deviled Egg The Land of REAL CHILIRegistered User regular
August 1
bowen do you want to be involved in the parenting?
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bowen How you doin'? Registered User regular
August 1
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joshgotro wrote: »
bowen do you want to be involved in the parenting?
I wouldn't mind.
I offer my opinion when asked, occasionally when not asked, but try not to be the one making critical decisions for either of them.
I can tell it wears on her too, but she seems to not want to rely on me for help either.
She's also several states away because she is burnt out and can't seem to get ahead and refuses to just let me handle it for her.
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Drez Registered User regular
August 1 edited August 1
I have a new kink. I know people are going to be surprised.
Being totally normal in all situations.
f*cked up, I know.
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Donkey Kong Putting Nintendo out of business with AI nips Registered User regular
August 1 edited August 1
DoctorArch wrote: »
Donkey Kong wrote: »
I can't imagine getting into an honest to god fight with my husband over an unlikely hypothetical that neither of us are close to. It's ridiculous and shows gross emotional immaturity.
I can't remember if you have kids DK. If you don't, having kids is one of those things where your life is lived with constant hypotheticals and worries about their well being crossed with asking yourself every day "am I doing the right thing" or "was I a good parent today."
A lot of times just to survive you put stuff on the table until later, but sometimes the hypothetical is right there and you have to ask it so you know what page you both are on. Other times it's just good practice to game out the hypothetical (like who gets the kids if we both die in a car accident).
Right I understand that, and I understand discussing the hypotheticals and even disagreeing on where you land. In cases like who gets the kids if you both die, that's actionable and the disagreement has immediate consequences. That's a legal document everyone needs to get in order in advance. You really should for the sake of the kid make a choice in advance and get it squared away.
But if the hypothetical is non-actionable and very very unlikely, like lethal childhood cancer, then you have both the luxury and the opportunity to step back and say "you know what, neither of us are close enough to this to say for sure what we would do". It's not about having an emotional or a logical response to the situation, it's about recognizing that you can't guess your own or your partner's response until the time comes, and accepting their response to the hypothetical for what it is. That shows a lot of maturity.
(edit: maturity that based on your post, you are showing to be clear)
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navgoose Registered User regular
August 1
Non-parent opinions an parental decisions can still be valuable. This is especially true when the non-parent is familiar with the son/daughter in question. One thing parents failed to adapt to is when children are old enough to make their own decisions.
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Weaver Who are you? What do you want?Registered User regular
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Guess the blue angels are in town starting today
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Zavian universal peace sounds better than forever war Registered User regular
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i need a partner who knows that the most important thing in our lives is that I get cryogenically frozen with our life savings in order to afford a future robocop body for myself
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Fuzzy Cumulonimbus Cloud Registered User regular
August 1
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Neither of you asked the kid what they wanted. 😤
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Weaver Who are you? What do you want?Registered User regular
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start a facebook account for good christian babies but just post 40k cherub servitors
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August 1
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i was going to post this in election thread but posting it here instead
'my ancestors are from the famed Caucasian mountain range of Ireland, Italy and Portugal'
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Weaver Who are you? What do you want?Registered User regular
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partner told me I'm not allowed to die before her so she doesn't have to deal with the trauma and I was like wow selfish but whatever I'm cursed to be eternal anyways
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Donkey Kong Putting Nintendo out of business with AI nips Registered User regular
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Also I'd say that there's no predictable break in the way people shift as they get closer to deciding between medical intervention and end of life care.
It's not as simple as saying that the logical thing to do is embrace end of life care, but people get emotional as it becomes more real and shift towards fighting a hopeless battle.
People shift both ways for both reasons.
My grandmother, in her early 80s, developed breast cancer. She was presented with a crazy aggressive treatment plan, and as the reality of chemo set in, she was absolutely ready to give up. Like, what were her odds of remission? How many QoL years could she possibly have left? We were all prepared to accept her decision.
It was actually the doctors who had to convince her that the 25% chance of beating the cancer was worth fighting for, and she's been in remission for 8 years now and made an honestly incredible recovery.
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Zavian universal peace sounds better than forever war Registered User regular
August 1
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Weaver wrote: »
partner told me I'm not allowed to die before her so she doesn't have to deal with the trauma and I was like wow selfish but whatever I'm cursed to be eternal anyways
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knitdan In ur base Killin ur guysRegistered User regular
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It’s weird because if I was in a coma? I’d want to be kept alive.
Because I’m not suffering in that scenario.
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HerrCron It that wickedly supports taxation Registered User regular
August 1
I'm holding onto the hairbrained scheme of passing my next long term partner a note saying "would you agree to make our hypothetical kid live in agony because of our hubris Y/N?" when I want to instigate at least a good week of misery for myself.
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Tumin Registered User regular
August 1
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I will always let God sort them out
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HerrCron wrote: »
I'm holding onto the hairbrained scheme of passing my next long term partner a note saying "would you agree to make our hypothetical kid live in agony because of our hubris Y/N?" when I want to instigate at least a good week of misery for myself.
I think it should be more 'does our hypothetical kid want to or not', and that it shouldnt be a binary choice with zero input from the actual person who has to suffer through the 'misery' (and while one may think 'well I wouldn't want to live in misery', there are possibilities of pain and nausea remeditation so there are certainly situations where it isn't 24/7 non-stop pain and agony until you die, so I don't feel comfortable with someone without any medical knowledge like a parent making that choice without it being properly informed)
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Tumin Registered User regular
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I told Tumsboo my coma plug pull timeline for myself (it was like two weeks) and she was like
maybe dont make EOL care decisions for yourself or literally anyone else ever you psychopath with no knowledge of recovery timelines
Anyway two weeks it is
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Weaver Who are you? What do you want?Registered User regular
August 1
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Tumin wrote: »
I will always let God sort them out
god slamming a bible in the desk like "where THE f*ck does it give you any idea that I have organizational skills did you even read numbers?"
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Drez Registered User regular
August 1
I'm gonna LOSE MY f*ckING MIND.
I've wasted THREE DAYS on a project because I've been given 3 sets of faulty data and need to keep redoing the whole f*cking thing which is a one off and not automatable. And the "faulty data" is purely because the data manager keeps using the wrong parameters/requirements even though we literally had three or four calls now to discuss the requirements.
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Donkey Kong Putting Nintendo out of business with AI nips Registered User regular
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It was probably a little unprofessional when my grandma's oncologist was like "DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY OF MY PATIENTS WOULD KILL FOR YOUR ODDS" but on the other hand he got her to sign the treatment plan and she's alive so
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DoctorArch Curmudgeon Registered User regular
August 1
Fuzzy Cumulonimbus Cloud wrote: »
Neither of you asked the kid what they wanted. 😤
True, but not a hypothetical to ask them at this point. I do think it should be asked if it happened.
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Weaver Who are you? What do you want?Registered User regular
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man screw coming out of a coma
total body muscle atrophy
learning basic motor skills all over again
massive medical debt
no job prospects
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Tumin Registered User regular
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Weaver its only been 3 weeks buddy
Welcome to the Mars labor colony though
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Zavian universal peace sounds better than forever war Registered User regular
August 1
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its been a year since i was bedridden and Im STILL working to get my muscles back. my legs were the worst off and still have muscle calf atrophy
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RedTide Registered User regular
August 1
Vanguard wrote: »
I have a very nice butt so if p*rn it would be showing that off
But alas, I must advertise
Listen you're already in the tattoo studio enough, it's time to think of synergizing.
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August 1 edited August 1
Today was lunch with my dad and we went to our favorite sushi place in midtown for the bento lunch.
I'm very fortunate to have a dad who has very progressive views and a minimum of boomer bullsh*t, but he's still a 72-year-old man so he ofc got his bento with fork instead of chopsticks, spicy ranch on the salad instead of ginger, and onion soup instead of miso.
I did the opposite of those things, and I also decided to splurge a little and get a red bean mochi for dessert, and the waiter shot me this...conspiratorial nod. It was the kind of nod that I would have recognized coming from a fellow fat, like "I feel you, brother, it's not a meal without ice cream" but this kid was gangly and rail-thin, and I had the lurching sensation that he'd decided I was a fellow weeb, a brother in arms out to lunch with his anime-hating MAGA brute of a father.
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Tumin Registered User regular
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Weeb weeb weeb
WEEB WEEB WEEB
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